Breaking up sucks. Let’s talk about how to get over it!
Step 1: Sever
It may seem harsh to cut off your ex, but it’s for your own good and it’s not permanent (unless you want it to be). There is no good that can come from Facebook stalking, drunk texting, or booty calls after a break up. Delete their phone number, unfriend them on your social networks, and avoid any events you’d both be attending.
Step 2: Indulge
Take a few days to indulge yourself in that guilty pleasure of yours. Reality TV, frozen pizza, and wine nights are acceptable and encouraged during the beginning of the break up period!
Step 3: Busy Yourself
Make plans with your friends. Join Habitat for Humanity. Take a sporadic road trip. Fill up your calender with fun activities with friends and family to keep yourself occupied and active. Staying at home and crying into a pillow isn’t going to make you feel better (okay, maybe a little bit better).
Step 4: Take a Breather
Now that you’ve busied yourself, stop for a moment. Putting off emotions by being busy is okay for awhile to help you cope and calm down, but eventually you need to let those emotions flow. Take a weekend to yourself to go over in your head your new found singleness and sort out your feelings.
Step 5: Face the Truth(s)
Now that your head is clear, it’s time to accept what’s happened and be okay with it. This person is no longer a part of your life, and things are different. Different doesn’t mean bad – so don’t get down! Make peace with these truths.
Step 6: Look on the Bright Side
Make a list of 100 things you love about yourself. Wear the dress your ex hated. Eat garlic and onions for dinner without worry. Do things that are selfish and make you happy. Being single and being not-single have their own perks, so enjoy those perks before you move on to the next phase of your life!
Have any break up survival tips?
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Way back in the day I dealt with bad breakups (pretty much anything unpleasant) with FOOD. Food was my comfort. And hence…I gained a lot of weight. 100+ pounds to be exact. I used food to deal with breakups, stress, depression, grief from a family member dying…Food was always there.
After I lost the weight, I realized that food didn’t make it better. I use exercise as a good stress reliever now. When I’m sad or angry I go for a run, or lift weights or swim. SOMETHING. Even just a walk helps a lot. I always feel better after doing an activity.
Wow! I can understand turning indulgences into a crutch. I’m glad you were able to dig yourself out of that. I think a lot of people eat emotionally and aren’t ever able to realize it. Good for you for being able to!